Coffee For One


" trying to trust the journey even if I don't understand it, and trusting what lies in the peripheries of the unknown."


Once a week, every Wednesday, I go on a date. But it's not like your typical coffee date; it doesn't involve thinking about what your date wants to do next, or if your date is full-on heart-on-eyes emoji on you. Instead, I go out alone.

Surprisingly though, despite the fact that I am physically alone, I don't feel alone. I'm alone with my thoughts. But as expected, it's one of those quiet ones that usually involves a slice of Chocolate Pecan Pie* and an Iced Americano, but it's one of the best conversations that I've ever had.

One of "our" usual conversations is about self worth, and finding the right path into loving myself again. That I am worth more than I think I do, and the best relationship that I can ever have is with myself.

Honestly, I'm not even sure how I ended up here. It took me a while to realize what I lost and how I can get it back. I know that I have a long way to go before I reach the right turn, but I'm positive that I am taking baby steps on the right track.

I guess, going on these coffee dates is me trying to trust the journey even if I don't understand it, and trusting what lies in the peripheries of the unknown.

* Sometimes a Ham & Cheese Croissant when I'm feeling savory 😉

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  1. Brigita

    April 6, 2019 8:43 pm

    I can understand you on this so well 🙂 I also do the same. I mean going somewhere alone. And I love it! Sometimes, to clear my head I really need just-me-time. Fun fact is that I live in Italy and eating somewhere alone usually is considered to be “sad” 😀 So Italian waiters will be trying to give you extra attention, just because you’re dining alone. Although, for coffee time, is different. That’s why I love to start a day in the bar with a croissant and cappuccino. Just on my own. And then, after I have my weekend coffee therapy, I go to meet my friends. I feel it’s absolutely healthy and understandable <3

    Bri |

  2. Sam | Violet Hollow

    April 7, 2019 3:59 pm

    I love this idea, A great time for refection xx

  3. Gemma

    April 7, 2019 11:42 pm

    Love this! A grey time for thinking and reflection.

    Gemma x

  4. Tia Teilli

    April 8, 2019 12:11 am

    Love this idea! xx

  5. Tina

    April 8, 2019 10:06 pm

    Ohyes, sometimes its the best to just sit down and write down whatever comes to our mind.. I also want to remember myself to do this more often and think about plans and my future 🙂 ♥


  6. Ashley

    April 8, 2019 11:16 pm

    I love this- taking some time aside for yourself (and your thoughts!) is something I don’t think we do enough. I definitely need to do better about scheduling time to check in with myself.

    Le Stylo Rouge

  7. SundayDahlias

    April 9, 2019 12:52 am

    This post resonates with me! Spending time with yourself is more important than people think. It can be therapeutic and calming to stop and think by yourself!

  8. Jacob

    April 9, 2019 5:24 am

    This is totally understandable and I can relate.
    I enjoyed reading and I will keep in touch

  9. Maria

    April 9, 2019 10:29 am

    I love this! Great time to reflect!

    xo, Maria

  10. Mercy

    April 9, 2019 12:39 pm

    Is there such thing as chocolate pecan pie, I’m missing out 🙂 I think it’s the best date ever.

  11. jessica

    April 10, 2019 3:32 am

    Love these thoughts, babe! I hope you’re having a great Tuesday!

  12. Gabrielle

    April 13, 2019 8:49 am

    Oh, I absolutely love your point about the best relationship you can have, being with yourself. Such wise words! x

  13. heather noire

    April 18, 2019 3:13 am

    I think people have a misconception that if your alone having a cup of coffee for example, it can be an odd thing. When in reality, the people who look and find it strange are the ones who are self conscious. It is great to walk alone or have a cup of coffee at a cafe to clear your head and sometimes you can get inspiration from it if you happen to be the creative type in art or anything else. 🙂 Thanks for sharing this post xx

  14. Laura

    May 2, 2019 1:19 am

    I think it’s a very good idea tbh, we need some time for ourselves
    to think about life, etc. personally i think it’s very necessary!
    kisses hunny!!

    My blog – Lalabetterdayz

  15. Andreea Birsan

    May 15, 2019 12:55 am

    Going out alone is so refreshing! I do it sometimes as well and it feels relaxing. xx


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